1. See

When we experience a thought that creates stressful emotions, there is a possibility to simply see it neutrally - hard to do but possible.

 

We would then see it as others might and then we can get a different view of it all. It does require some imagination though.

 

I find it is a bit like looking at these optical illusion pictures where first I see a the head of a duck, but then all of a sudden I see the head of a rabbit.

 

Or the other well known picture of an old witch with a scarf on the head or a young woman with a coat around her shoulders.

 

Being able to see something else than our first thinking can also be similar to becoming aware that seeing a garden or city from different angles and heights you can see new things, new ways to walk, and new possibilities for how and where you want to go.

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2. Evaluate

When we are open to other ways of seeing it and the complete opposite, we can evaluate both sides, resulting in being able to choose what serves us best.

 

Being angry and frustrated or feeling a sense of neutrality and going with it.

 

Then we can ask ourself, is this first thinking really useful or is the other better?

 

What if the flip side of what we first thought could be better for us?

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So hard to know, but maybe when we are open to different views and then take a little bit of time to see our first viewpoint in a different way, we might enjoy the surprise of finding a better way out.

 

 That is a nice experience in my opinion.

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3. Execute

So, now that we have opened up to other viewpoints, we can be ready to make decisions on what to do next.

 

To execute on what serves us well instead of lingering in the suffering of worry and regret.

 

This is where we need to just do it: be brave and step into the unknown.

 

Remembering that most of the time it goes well and serves us better.

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In summary:

See, Evaluate, and Execute.

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